Janine Baer, feminist and
adoption reform activist, writes on the history of sealed records and the detrimental
consequences of years of secrecy to everyone touched by adoption. Her book, "Growing
in The Dark: Adoption Secrecy and Its Consequences", documents adoption law from
the 19th Century to the 21st.
To order her new book, email: Orders@Xlibris.com
or visit this website: www.xlibris.com/growinginthedark.html
Adoption: Uncharted Waters, author & psychologist
Becoming Patrick, author adoptee Patrick McMahon
author Barbara Bizantz Raymond
Authors: Elyse Schein and Paula Bernstein
The Adoption Mystique, author, social worker
adoptee Joanne Wolf Small
The Girls Who Went Away, Author Anne Fessler
l.5 million mothers never wanted to give up their babies
webtalkradio.net - Author Sara Saffian discusses her memoirs of being found.
Review of Adam Pertman's book Adoption Nation - Mr. Pertman, former Director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute, has recently started a new organization: The National Center on Adoption and Permanency (NCAP), a unique "one-stop" organization that provides a broad range of information, resources and multidisciplinary services relating to adoption, foster care and child welfare. Contact:
firstname.lastname@example.org or 617-903-0554.
Wendy Barkett's new book Shadows of a Dark-Alley Adoptee: An Adoptee's Search for Self
ABC News Video November 27, 2012 Queensland Australia, Official Government Apology for forced adoptions of the past
Reporter Dan Rather covers the issue of mothers forced to surrender for adoption. Adopted or Abducted airs on HDNet TV May 1 at 8pm ET
Breaking News for Women's Rights: March 2012, The Australia National Post: Australia urged to compensate, apologize to unwed mothers forced to give up children for adoption.
Video and article: some women want apologies but some are demanding reparations! Report on Australian Senate Inquiry into forced adoptions expected this week 2/25/2012.
video: Assemblymembers David Weprin and Richard Gottfried Manhattan - City Hall Press Conference for the Bill of Adoptee Rights - filmed by Adoptee Jason Darnieder.
video: Adoptees Access to Records
video: New Hampshire Open Records Debate
Adoptee Larry Dell, PR Director for Unsealed Initiative offers $1000 for help in finding his birth family!
video: Annette Baran pt 1
Adoption social worker, author and pioneer in adoption reform speaks. Sadly she passed away recently but her work along with that of Reuben Pannor adoption social worker to end the harmful secrecy of the past, will be forever remembered.
video: Adoptee Thomas Brooks,
author of A Wealth of Family
video: Adoptee Jean Strauss,
The Right to Know
video: Adoptee, Singer, Songwriter Mary Gauthier performs her song "Blood is Blood." After many years and many recordings she expresses her feelings about her adoption and acknowledges the movement for open records.
video: Darryl McDaniels, Zara Phillips,
video: Promo by filmmaker Jason Darnieder
All My Life
Recent video: Mothers who deal with depression for many years after giving up children for adoption speak out
I Want My Baby Back - HuffPost Live
Video: The Woman in Black 2 - woman is also haunted by child she gave up for adoption.
Adoptee Tales from the Sealed Record Era
Michael Potter's blog, Navigating the Present and the Future Without A Past: A collection of 12 essays published in The Kindle Edition. "The Last Invisible Continent: Essays on Adoption."
Queens Catholic Priest Father Tom Brosnan, a reunited adoptee, blogs on Adoption and Faith.
Adoptionfind blog: Rhode Island adoptees age 25 will get a new law and the right to know!
Family Ties Blog: Are Adult Adoptees Worthy of Respect
Lost Daughters adoption blog...it's a sisterhood
Native New Yorker, Adopted
Person and Experienced Searcher,
her "Words of Wisdom" for doing your own search.
For further search help email her at: email@example.com
1. Make it easy to find
yourself - list your phone number under your maiden name and/or birth name if you are an
adoptee; list your phone as your name when you relinquished. My Mom was in the phone book!
2. Register with the International Soundex Reunion Registry (702) 882-7755, and the
state registry in the state where you were adopted or relinquished. Write for Non
Identifying information from the agency used and the state. Visit the agency!
3. In NYC there are birth indexes for both the NYCity and NYState births. NYS indexes are in the
National Archives on Houston and Varick Streets. Although NYC indexes were recently removed from the New York Public Library on 42nd Street and Fifth Avenue, they can be found elsewhere. Please follow this link for further information.
4. Keep a log of everything you do for your search - jot down every insignificant detail -
it may be a key that will open a door later on.
5. Be kind to yourself and others - a smile gets more out of someone you want information
from than a fist slammed on a desk - tried both :>)
6. Take a rest but do not give up - you will find if your information is correct - took me
four and a half years - I had my birth name (Female Hopkins), that my mother was 40 and
Lutheran and a housewife - which the latter was not correct.
7. Check the old phone books for your birth name in the year you were born and the year
you were adopted - my birth mother was in the book. Do an address search (reverse phone
book) to find out if she lived with someone.
8. If you are an older adoptee, the census is wonderful.
9. If you are a younger adoptee the census is good, but you are looking for grandparents.
10. You need at least two pieces of information to confirm a find. I had a couple of false
hits because I wanted to find so badly. Some people may fit the mold but in the end you
Christine Gregory is an adoptee and former Political Science teacher from Cortland, New York. Read her article, published in the Cortland Standard, here.
American Adoption Congress
Adoption Congress is composed of individuals, families and organizations committed to
adoption reform. They represent all those whose lives are touched by adoption.
Adoption Congress web site lists court cases by state, a report titled "The
History of Sealed Records" by Samuels and much more. Visit the AAC web site at www.Americanadoptioncongress.org
37th International Adoption Conference
Check the site for information on Regional and National Conferences
Adoptee Rights Coalition's booth at The National Conference of State Legislatures Annual Conference.
The booth brings awareness and the opportunity to meet with legislators from all states.
Aside from the booth, there is a march and demonstration.
Last year's conference and demonstration was held in Chicago, and activists invite you to attend Atlanta in August of 2013. Stand up for adoption reform and adoptee rights!
Recently Jeff Hancock, UI Regional Coordinator from Western New York, became President of the Adoptee Rights
GOING ON AFTER REJECTION
you're likely to be hesitant about taking another chance for reunion... that's
understandable. Here are some tips on coping.
yourself to be disappointed.
punish yourself with expectations of what you think you should be feeling.
that everyone gets rejected sometime in life.
that the rejection usually has little to to do with you. It has more to do with the person
who rejected you.
superstitious. Rationalizing that "this was meant to be" is not a positive
make all wounds easier to bear, and the person who rejected you could change their mind
after a while.
completely recover from rejection...you accommodate. You become a different person by
living through experience.
really helps to talk to others who have experienced the same rejection and work through
your anger and grief, which are natural reactions.
She was ahead of her time in
1954. Challenging the shroud of secrecy surrounding adoption with her book THE
ADOPTED BREAK SILENCE, Jean Paton founded Orphan Voyage and the first reunion
registry in the USA. She helped thousands search and never stopped speaking out about
adoption rights. Jean died recently after a brief illness.
Remembering marchers from New
York to Washington DC, birth mothers Marilyn Burson and Sharon Bell.
Marching to protest laws that present birth parents with a life long sentence of
separation from children surrendered to adoption.
This will soon be
changed to include New Hampshire