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Our members in New York State are working for equal rights in adoption law and awareness of adoption issues. We are a writing, lobbying and media effort. Contact us at: unsealedinitiative@nyc.rr.com

Books:

Melinda Warshaw's book A Legitimate Life has recently been published. To purchase, visit http://melindaawarshaw.yolasite.com/
Facebook Link:
https://www.facebook.com/pages/A-Legitimate-Life-by-Melinda-Warshaw/100876420030591

Building Bridges and Fighting Battles to End Sealed Records in New York - Melinda Warshaw and Joyce Bahr http://endsealednyadoptrecords.blogspot.com/2007/05/building-bridges-and-fighting-battles.html

Janine Baer, feminist and adoption reform activist, writes on the history of sealed records and the detrimental consequences of years of secrecy to everyone touched by adoption. Her book, "Growing in The Dark: Adoption Secrecy and Its Consequences", documents adoption law from the 19th Century to the 21st.
To order her new book, email: Orders@Xlibris.com or visit this website: www.xlibris.com/growinginthedark.html

Adoption: Uncharted Waters, author & psychologist
David Kirschner
http://www.adoptionunchartedwaters.com/

Becoming Patrick, author adoptee Patrick McMahon
http://www.patrickmc.com/

www.BabyThief.com
author Barbara Bizantz Raymond

www.IdenticalStrangersBook.com
Authors: Elyse Schein and Paula Bernstein

The Adoption Mystique, author, social worker
adoptee Joanne Wolf Small
Highly Recommended
http://www.jwsmall.com/

The Girls Who Went Away, Author Anne Fessler
l.5 million mothers never wanted to give up their babies
www.thegirlswhowentaway.com/

webtalkradio.net - Author Sara Saffian discusses her memoirs of being found.
http://webtalkradio.net/tag/ithaka/

Review of Adam Pertman's book Adoption Nation - Mr. Pertman, former Director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute, has recently started a new organization: The National Center on Adoption and Permanency (NCAP), a unique "one-stop" organization that provides a broad range of information, resources and multidisciplinary services relating to adoption, foster care and child welfare. Contact:
apertman@myriadsp.com or 617-903-0554.
http://www.comeunity.com/adoption/books/bkadoptionnation.html

Wendy Barkett's new book Shadows of a Dark-Alley Adoptee: An Adoptee's Search for Self
http://www.amazon.com/Shadows-Dark-Alley-Adoptee-Adoptees-Search/dp/1470186551


Videos:

ABC News Video November 27, 2012 Queensland Australia, Official Government Apology for forced adoptions of the past
http://blogs.abc.net.au/queensland/2012/11/apology-for-forced-adoptions.html#.ULS_dSGHnzo.facebook

Reporter Dan Rather covers the issue of mothers forced to surrender for adoption. Adopted or Abducted airs on HDNet TV May 1 at 8pm ET
http://www.hd.net/blogs/response-to-abducted-or-adopted/

Breaking News for Women's Rights: March 2012, The Australia National Post: Australia urged to compensate, apologize to unwed mothers forced to give up children for adoption.
http://news.nationalpost.com/2012/03/01/australia-urged-to-compensate-apologize-to-unwed-mothers-forced-to-give-up-newborns/

Video and article: some women want apologies but some are demanding reparations! Report on Australian Senate Inquiry into forced adoptions expected this week 2/25/2012.
http://www.abc.net.au/news/2012-02-24/mothers-want-apology-over-forced-adoptions/3852330

video: Assemblymembers David Weprin and Richard Gottfried Manhattan - City Hall Press Conference for the Bill of Adoptee Rights - filmed by Adoptee Jason Darnieder.
http://vimeo.com/23230031

video: Adoptees Access to Records
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tyu4E9Bhi9E

video: New Hampshire Open Records Debate
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OfBMiKGUDLs

Adoptee Larry Dell, PR Director for Unsealed Initiative offers $1000 for help in finding his birth family!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=88aBiDQHpCQ

video: Annette Baran pt 1
Adoption social worker, author and pioneer in adoption reform speaks. Sadly she passed away recently but her work along with that of Reuben Pannor adoption social worker to end the harmful secrecy of the past, will be forever remembered.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uDkh9IMTiiI&feature=related

video: Adoptee Thomas Brooks,
author of A Wealth of Family
http://youtube.com/watch?v=2CVWn4f5YL8

video: Adoptee Jean Strauss,
The Right to Know
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eC3Tnfj_R5Y

video: Adoptee, Singer, Songwriter Mary Gauthier performs her song "Blood is Blood." After many years and many recordings she expresses her feelings about her adoption and acknowledges the movement for open records.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWMa6VHK3fc&feature=share

video: Darryl McDaniels, Zara Phillips,
I'm Legit
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PZbKNJUyGQ0

video: Promo by filmmaker Jason Darnieder
All My Life
http://vimeo.com/32493937

Recent video: Mothers who deal with depression for many years after giving up children for adoption speak out
I Want My Baby Back - HuffPost Live
http://live.huffingtonpost.com/r/segment/managing-adoption-regret/50c0eecb02a76029fc00008f

Video: The Woman in Black 2 - woman is also haunted by child she gave up for adoption.

Adoptee Tales from the Sealed Record Era
http://secretsonsanddaughters.org/2014/04/12/ohio-adoptee-molly-murphy-reunites-birth-family-39/


Blogs:

Michael Potter's blog, Navigating the Present and the Future Without A Past: A collection of 12 essays published in The Kindle Edition. "The Last Invisible Continent: Essays on Adoption." http://icartographer.blogspot.com/

Queens Catholic Priest Father Tom Brosnan, a reunited adoptee, blogs on Adoption and Faith. http://adoptionandfaith.blogspot.com/

Adoptionfind blog: Rhode Island adoptees age 25 will get a new law and the right to know! http://adoptionfind.wordpress.com/2012/03/01/ri-adoptees-over-25-years-allowed-original-birth-certificates/

Family Ties Blog: Are Adult Adoptees Worthy of Respect http://nanadays.blogspot.com/2012/11/are-adult-adoptees-worthy-of-respect.html

Lost Daughters adoption blog...it's a sisterhood http://www.thelostdaughters.com/


Native New Yorker, Adopted Person and Experienced Searcher,
Shelly Lester
offers her "Words of Wisdom" for doing your own search.
For further search help email her at
:
monschild@aol.com

1. Make it easy to find yourself - list your phone number under your maiden name and/or birth name if you are an adoptee; list your phone as your name when you relinquished. My Mom was in the phone book!

2. Register with the International Soundex Reunion Registry (702) 882-7755, and the state registry in the state where you were adopted or relinquished. Write for Non Identifying information from the agency used and the state. Visit the agency!

3. In NYC there are birth indexes for both the NYCity and NYState births. NYS indexes are in the National Archives on Houston and Varick Streets. Although NYC indexes were recently removed from the New York Public Library on 42nd Street and Fifth Avenue, they can be found elsewhere. Please follow this link for further information.

4. Keep a log of everything you do for your search - jot down every insignificant detail - it may be a key that will open a door later on.

5. Be kind to yourself and others - a smile gets more out of someone you want information from than a fist slammed on a desk - tried both :>)

6. Take a rest but do not give up - you will find if your information is correct - took me four and a half years - I had my birth name (Female Hopkins), that my mother was 40 and Lutheran and a housewife - which the latter was not correct.

7. Check the old phone books for your birth name in the year you were born and the year you were adopted - my birth mother was in the book. Do an address search (reverse phone book) to find out if she lived with someone.

8. If you are an older adoptee, the census is wonderful.

9. If you are a younger adoptee the census is good, but you are looking for grandparents.

10. You need at least two pieces of information to confirm a find. I had a couple of false hits because I wanted to find so badly. Some people may fit the mold but in the end you need proof.


Christine Gregory Christine Gregory is an adoptee and former Political Science teacher from Cortland, New York. Read her article, published in the Cortland Standard, here.






American Adoption Congress

The American Adoption Congress is composed of individuals, families and organizations committed to adoption reform. They represent all those whose lives are touched by adoption.

The American Adoption Congress web site lists court cases by state, a report titled "The History of Sealed Records" by Samuels and much more. Visit the AAC web site at www.Americanadoptioncongress.org

AAC's 37th International Adoption Conference
2016
Denver, CO
Check the site for information on Regional and National Conferences



Adoptee Rights Coalition's booth at The National Conference of State Legislatures Annual Conference. The booth brings awareness and the opportunity to meet with legislators from all states. Aside from the booth, there is a march and demonstration. Last year's conference and demonstration was held in Chicago, and activists invite you to attend Atlanta in August of 2013. Stand up for adoption reform and adoptee rights! Recently Jeff Hancock, UI Regional Coordinator from Western New York, became President of the Adoptee Rights Coalition.


GOING ON AFTER REJECTION
by Sandy Cox
Wilmington, Delaware

Once hurt, you're likely to be hesitant about taking another chance for reunion... that's understandable. Here are some tips on coping.

Allow yourself to be disappointed.

Don't punish yourself with expectations of what you think you should be feeling.

Remember that everyone gets rejected sometime in life.

Realize that the rejection usually has little to to do with you. It has more to do with the person who rejected you.

Don't be superstitious. Rationalizing that "this was meant to be" is not a positive approach.

Time does make all wounds easier to bear, and the person who rejected you could change their mind after a while.

You never completely recover from rejection...you accommodate. You become a different person by living through experience.

Also, it really helps to talk to others who have experienced the same rejection and work through your anger and grief, which are natural reactions.


In Memoriam

JEAN PATON

1908-2002

She was ahead of her time in 1954. Challenging the shroud of secrecy surrounding adoption with her book THE ADOPTED BREAK SILENCE, Jean Paton founded Orphan Voyage and the first reunion registry in the USA. She helped thousands search and never stopped speaking out about adoption rights. Jean died recently after a brief illness.


Remembering marchers from New York to Washington DC, birth mothers Marilyn Burson and Sharon Bell. Marching to protest laws that present birth parents with a life long sentence of separation from children surrendered to adoption.


This will soon be changed to include New Hampshire


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